Abort! Abort! Abort!

So SKP's not engaged! Long story short that began on Wed after a therapy session and many conversations with me, the boyfriend and the boyfriend's mentor/advisor later... It's come to light that while SKP is madly in love with JB, she doesn't think they are ready to get engaged. She needs JB to have a serious plan for completing his undergraduate degree (he's 28) and a budget they can realistically live on as married folk. While she doesn't articulate it as such, she sees every year he remains in school as a year in which they will be unhappily, or at least stressfully, married and therefore unable to pursue any other dreams. As she sees it, if he's in school for 7 years, they will be unable to go on vacation, she'll be unable to go shopping, go out with friends, get her hair done or have children for those 7 years! I know! That's a LOT to have riding on a graduation date! While I do not agree that he needs to be done with school before there can be 'air' in SKP's world, or shopping or children. I am proud of her for making her needs known and not keeping silent when all that stands between her and her biggest dream - of being married - are her own reservations! HUGE growth for her! Good on ya chica! For the record, I think they'll sort it out and be engaged soon - probably at the latest by V's Day. Then I can finally tell her "Remember that week you were freaking out at the end of December? JB was going to ask you to be his wife on your date that Saturday the 20th right before you guys went to see your family for Christmas!"  I can't even begin to imagine how she'll respond. That's right, she didn't know, it was a surprise.  So you can't tell her!  I'll keep you posted on other engagement developments.